Weave Fetish or Addiction???

I remember when Tyra had that show where she took out her weave for all those women that have never left their home without a weave, women whose boyfriends have never touched their scalp,  she called it “National Real Hair Day”. She raised some eyebrows, Joy Bryant quoted “Hi, I am Joy and i’m a weave- aholic”. lol! I found it funny as hell! But it got me thinking, are a lot of black women or even women in general addicted to weave, I mean when does it go from just switching your look like switching shoes to an addiction?

While watching the Tyra Banks show, I was shocked to see her rocking her real hair which looked way better than the road kill she wore sometimes. Then I saw Solange rocking her bald head. Just recently Octavia Spencer rocked her nappy look at the Oscars. More celebs like, Gabrielle Union, Ashanti, Mary J Blige, and Oprah, rocking their real hair too. While regular girls like me spend so much money on all kinds of weaves, yaki, silky yaki, remi, outre, Indian Brazilian even African sef in this recession…. I see celebs like Beyonce spending 60 thousand dollars on weaves. Rihanna, Lil Kim, Trina, Ciara, Keri Hilson and her 27 pieces…. even white babes like the Kardashians and Britney Spears spend thousands on weaves.

Beyonce without weave

The media is a major factor in deciding the standards of beauty, so all those long beachy waves have not only black girls getting weaves but white girls too. However black girls are the biggest buyer in this industry. Ladies, Do remember celebs have personal stylists who care their weave and their own hair and loads of money at their disposal so you cant always follow everything they do.

“I think I have an addiction”. This is what I hear most ladies saying nowadays in reference to their weave when i try to tell them to take a break, treat their hair or go completely natural if they intend to wear it ALL the time, because the natural hair can stand up to the neglect better than the relaxed hair. I usually win when I have my clients go natural under the weave. MOST CELEBS ARE COMPLETELY NATURAL UNDER THEIR WEAVE. Weave is definitely super convenient , and if installed correctly,it is FAB!! I love a weave. Weaves are very low maintenance and can aid in allowing one to give their own hair a rest from heat styling and such, allows you to transition from a haircut and such

The weave SHOULD BE a tool and not a crutch.

But, far too often it worn AS a person’s hair. To the point where the person is not whole or complete unless they have their unit in place. Or the person’s hair is so damaged underneath that they cannot wear their own hair with confidence. My motto is weave should be an option and not a necessity.

this should NOT be u under your weave

For some weave has become the new crack, they spend their last dime on it and do not feel whole without it. They are those that want to be in the latest like rihanna and buy the most expensive remi and want to owe the hairdresser, they want to buy “a hair” at the expense of sending their kids to school, they owe rent, bills or they borrow because they cannot be caught dead in the streets without it. There has even been reported cases of ladies stealing weave out the store, like seriously????

weave store clerk,

  Now, I have to be real in saying….I’m not willing to give up the weave completely, I LOVE the alter ego I can switch to with long curly hair, but balance is key if you realize that you NEED a weave fix. If you have a weave bill that you cant afford and you hate the mirror without your weave, you may have a problem.

As a stylist here’s MY take:

I believe that weave is a major part of our style culture and i love it, if it makes a woman feel good then I guess it serves of some purpose, however I still feel that it is not healthy because it is very detrimental to the way some women view their hair. I look to the media for trends, yet i still believe women shouldn’t mimic celebs to a tee, but hey thats just me. I just don’t fully understand why black women are the targeted customers of the weave, & overall beauty supply success. I mean these beauty supplies making tremendous amounts of money off of us, just so that we can buy products that take us away from the essence of our natural beauty. It hurts me sometimes that black women/girls have allowed it to go this far, and even more so, that most of us actually believe that we have “bad” hair and use it in a negative tone, when really black hair is beautiful just like all our skin tones so are the textures of our hair. I LOVE DOING BLACK HAIR, I LOVE MY CAREER, each hair is so unique and gives a different result. I think a lot of black women have these stereotypes about their own hair, and they dismiss the idea of taking care of their hair in order to get it to that state of health. I wish more black females could see that, but it is what it is, and AS A STYLE GIVER & LOVER I just want everyone to be happy, and take care of their hair regardless of how they wear it.

SO Just think about it:  do you have a fetish or an addiction?


Happy Styling & Weave Rockin’,

One LOVE 😉



ALERT!! Ombre Hair Colour Trend – turn hair darkness to light…


Take your hair to an ultra hip place with the hip colour trend that feature a subtle shade shift from dark to light or vice-versa! Note I said SUBTLE, because unless your are nicki manaj or lady gaga, you dont need blonde to yellow, purple to pink, lime-green to blonde contrasts for day to day style =/ 


Many celebs have been doing this trend, like Beyonce, Keri Hilson, Ciara, Ashley Simpson just name a few. It works on both short and long hair, natural or relaxed, even dreadlocks! A unique ombre look will make everyone say OMG! It will have you turning heads.



Now DO NOT try ombre @ home! Forget what you see on youtube, Only proper foiling, colouring technique & hair care knowlegde will have you looking right and remaining healthy.

Before going ombre, consider these things:

1. $$$$ YOUR POCKET! How often can you visit the Salon?! You will need regular re-constructive deep conditioning so your hair doesn’t break, colour glazes to maintain vibrancy and hue, plus colour touch ups at least 6 to 8wks.

2. YOUR HAIR’S CURRENT CONDITION. Weak damaged hair cannot handle colour. Ombre can be acheived with a weave so you may wanna try a weave out to protect and preserve your hair from furthur damageOmbre extensions

3. YOUR SKIN TONE & LIFESTYLEChoose shades that will compliment your skin tone as well as YOUR CLOSET & WORKPLACE! A person can choose one (1) to three (3) colours to shade for the “Ombre” effect.

For a dark chocolate beauty: deep reds, coppers, and cool ash make for beautiful choices.

For the caramel-coated lovely: rich browns, coppers, possibly even violets (depending on career character).

For the fair maiden: ash tones, subdued blondes, golden caramel tones will add warmth to her olive skin sharp ombre on lighter skin tone

4. YOUR HAIRCUT / HAIRSTYLE. Parting, layers are essential to colour placement. For example a sunburst effect can be achieved with front layers. CIAR SUNBURST EFFECT

5. YOUR STYLIST. If there has been a previous color, you WILL NOT be able to achieve the “Ombre” effect successfully without some color correction (or maybe even more drastic measures). Is your stylist able.
Though it may look as if this now infamous look can be achieved at home, as i said earlier it is necessary to visit a professional establishment and a certified colour technician for the best results.

Now all you style savvy divas, Happy Ombre-ing!!!! IT’S A GOOD LOOK

😉 Malibu


GORGEOUS EXTRAS – accessorizing hairstyles

When it comes to the finishing touches on your hair, you cant go wrong with an amazing hair accessory!! Make a statement, or make a look even more gorgeous with these trendy sparkling extras.

Investing in a few key hair accessories guarantees style versatility in a flash! Consider adding these trendy accents to your ‘hair wardrobe’.

So here’s what you aiming for : SHIMMER, GLEAM, GLISTEN & TWINKLE.

A rhinestone headband adds a great touch to long hair, a long weave and long loose waves or barrel curls. A thin band of rhinestones positioned right gives a modern day princess look. Style tip: Try low on the crown over a centre part. The double headband or “glamhead” is cute with the natural fro look, space the headbands an inch apart for style impact, you can even take then on the forehead for the bo-ho or hippy chick look. Those come in metallic which adds shine to your look

rhinestone headband

Double headband

Gilded Chopsticks add an exotic flair to a pin-up. The key is to twist the chopsticks through making sure your hair and them are intertwined securely. A partial upsweep or even a pin-up near the nape is an edgy way to wear the chopsticks. NEVER wear only one, stick to the pairs.

Sparkly hair pins, adds a delicate touch to bangs, parts and ponytails. They add unexpected shine to the flip side bangs expecially

glitter hair pins

Accessories are great for everyday wear and excellent for special occasion so happy hairstyling. Keep it simple, cute, girly, trendy, keep over the top looks for parties or such unless u lady gaga or nicki, enjoy!

One Love 😉


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Nutrition & your Hair >> Top 10 foods for Healthy Hair, your healthy hair diet!

When it comes to healthy hair, it’s not just what you put on your hair that count — it’s what you put in your body too.

Healthy Relaxed Hair - not dull or brittle

 “Lather, rinse, repeat” may be standard advice, but shampoo and conditioner alone won’t give you the healthy hair you crave. For the most luxurious look possible, you’ll need to step out of the shower, and into the kitchen.

“Your hair grows about 1/4 to 1/2 inch every month, and the foundation of all of our new hair, skin and nail growth is the nutrients we eat,” says Dawn Jackson Blatner, RD, a Chicago-based dietitian. “If you eat a healthy diet you will grow stronger and healthier cells throughout your entire body — inside and out.”

BUT PLEASE KNOW THIS, If you were born with fine, thin hair, you’ll never have full thick hair — no matter what you eat — but a well-balanced diet that includes plenty of growth-promoting protein and iron can make a difference in that it will make those fine strands strong.

And beware of dietary supplements often marketed to thicken hair or make it grow faster. They may backfire!!!!!

Even though you can find beauty supplements on the shelves of most stores, try to get the nutrients you need from foods as much as possible. In rare instances, excess supplementation of certain nutrients, such as vitamin A, has been linked to hair loss

So here goes,,,the 10 top foods that should be the foundation of your healthy hair diet

Healthy Hair Food No. 1: Salmon

When it comes to foods that pack a beauty punch, it’s hard to beat salmon. Loaded with omega-3 fatty acids, this high-quality protein source is also filled with vitamin B-12 and iron. Essential omega-3 fatty acids are needed to support scalp health, A deficiency can result in a dry scalp and thus hair, giving it a dull look.

If you are a Vegan,include one or two tablespoons of ground flaxseed in your daily diet for some plant-based omega-3 fats.

Healthy Hair Food No. 2: Dark Green Vegetables

Popeye the Sailor Man didn’t eat all that spinach for healthy hair, but he could have. Spinach, like broccoli and Swiss chard, is an excellent source of vitamins A and C, which your body needs to produce sebum. The oily substance, secreted by your hair follicles, is the body’s natural hair conditioner. Dark green vegetables also provide iron and calcium.

Healthy Hair Food No. 3: Beans

Beans, beans, they’re good for your … hair? Yes, it’s true. Legumes like kidney beans and lentils should be an important part of your hair-care diet. Not only do they provide plentiful protein to promote hair growth, but ample iron, zinc, and biotin. Biotin deficiencies can result in brittle hair. Try three or more cups of lentils or beans each week. For us in JA, rice and peas over plain rice.

Healthy Hair Food No. 4: Nuts

Do you go nuts for thick, shiny hair? You should.

Brazil nuts are one of nature’s best sources of selenium, an important mineral for the health of your scalp. Walnuts contain alpha-linolenic acid, an omega-3 fatty acid that may help condition your hair. They are also a terrific source of zinc, as are cashews, pecans, and almonds. A zinc deficiency can lead to hair shedding, so make sure nuts are a regular on your healthy hair menu.

Healthy Hair Food No. 5: Poultry

Chickens may have feathers, but the high-quality protein they provide will help give you the healthy hair you crave. Without adequate protein or with low-quality protein, one can experience weak brittle hair, while a profound protein deficiency can result in loss of hair color,” Poultry also provides iron with a high degree of bio-availability, meaning your body can easily reap its benefits.

Healthy Hair Food No. 6: Eggs

When it comes to healthy hair, it doesn’t matter whether you like your eggs scrambled, fried, or over easy. However they’re served up, eggs are one of the best protein sources you can find.They also contain biotin and vitamin B-12, which are important beauty nutrients.

Healthy Hair Food No. 7: Whole Grains

Sink your teeth into hearty whole grains, including whole-wheat bread and fortified whole-grain breakfast cereals, for a hair-healthy dose of zinc, iron, and B vitamins.A whole-grain snack can also be a great go-to food when your energy is zapped halfway through the afternoon, and you’ve still got hours to go before dinner.

Healthy Hair Food No. 8: Oysters

Oysters may be better known for their reputation as an aphrodisiac, but they can also lead to healthy hair — and who doesn’t love that? The key to their love and hair-boosting abilities is zinc — a powerful antioxidant. If oysters don’t make a regular appearance on your dinner plate, don’t despair. In addition to getting it from whole grains and nuts, you can also get zinc from beef and lamb.

Healthy Hair Food No. 9: Low-Fat Dairy Products

Low-fat dairy products like skim milk and yogurt are great sources of calcium, an important mineral for hair growth. They also contain whey and casein, two high-quality protein sources. For some healthy hair foods “to-go,” try throwing a yogurt or cottage cheese cup in your bag when you head out in the morning to snack on later in the day. You can even boost their hair benefits by stirring in a couple of tablespoons of ground flaxseeds or walnuts for omega-3 fatty acids and zinc.

Healthy Hair Food No. 10: Carrots

Carrots are an excellent source of vitamin A, which promotes a healthy scalp along with good visions. Since a healthy scalp is essential for a shiny, well-conditioned head of hair, you’d be wise to include carrots in your diet as snacks or toppings on your salad.


before & after care & supplements

The Big Picture: A Balanced Diet for Healthy Hair

When it comes to foods for healthy hair and beauty, variety is the best way to go. Do not forgo maintainance and care either!

An overall balanced diet of lean proteins, fruits, and vegetables, whole grains, legumes, fatty fish like salmon and low-fat dairy will help keep hair healthy.

If you’re tempted to drop pounds fast with the latest diet, it could leave you with less-than-healthy hair — along with a growling stomach. Low-calorie diets are often low in some of the most important nutrients for healthy hair, including omega-3 fatty acids, zinc, and vitamin A. In addition to stunting hair growth and leading to dullness, super-low calorie plans may even cause hair loss.

Crash diets can affect the hair cycle, Losing a significant amount of weight in a short amount of time can affect that normal hair rhythm. Two to three months later, you might notice a significant increase in shedding. This is a temporary problem that you recover from with a well-rounded diet.

So happy eating beauties! Great hair starts from within, be healthy,look good, feel good!

 One love
Malibu 😉
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